This is the fourth in a series of posts of simple reminders for those traveling down a family law litigation path.
The ABC’s of Divorce and Child Custody, Continued:
Just roll with the punches. Co-parenting effectively means being flexible and reasonable in working with the other parent. There will be some adjustment period at first, and undoubtedly a few bumps in the road along the way, but don’t throw in the towel out of frustration right away. Give co-parenting a fair shot. In the normal ideal situation, you and your child’s other parent both want what’s best for your child. There may come a time that you and the other parent may not always agree on what that is, which is why the court system is set up to step in when parents are unable to agree. However, it is not in anyone’s best interest to immediately run to your lawyer and/or the courtroom. Always attempt to work things out civilly with your child’s other parent first.
Keep unkind thoughts about your child’s other parent to yourself. In your child’s eyes, you should care for him or her because your child does. Don’t ever bad-mouth the other parent in front of your child or allow anyone else to do so either. Absolutely no good results from talking poorly about your child’s other parent to or in front of your child. Resist the urge, if there is one. You are only hurting your child by doing this.
Listen to what the other parent is saying about any concerns he or she has about your child and respond with respect. Yes, even if you personally believe what is being said is ridiculous and absurd, it is your duty as a parent to give his or her concern adequate attention and respond with respect. The last thing you want is for the other parent to indicate to the judge that he/she presented concerns about your child to you and you just blew the other parent off. The way you treat the other parent when discussing concerns of your child can always become a subject of discussion in the courtroom. You want to always be able to say that you were respectful to the other parent.